This is an subject that I don’t know that many people have talked about publickly at least. I don’t know why, but I thought it’s time someone did.
Harsh fact is that a person can feel like they don’t have friends, even though they have. It depends for example if they see each other at all, are they too busy, if they live too far away that meeting is not possible due to it or they don’t just care to meet/see you. That kind of people unfortunately do exist, that wont say directly if they even want to hang out with you but rather just act like your friend even when they’re not. Specially when a hard time comes around, you’ll likely see who are your real friends and who aren’t.
I want to talk about this subject as I actually have experience with friends like this, who does not say directly even when they don’t want to spend time with you, but act like they do. I can give you an example from my vocational collage. There was this one girl there who I had been spending time with and who wanted to spend time with me at first, but after some time I got replaced by another person. They didin’t say why they couldn’t see me in their free-time or anything like that. End result is that I don’t have any contact with them anymore as I don’t need that kind of people in my life. I will be alone much rather than to have that kind of people in my life.
Most of my old friends unfortunately do also belong to this category. They gave me a falsified reason all the time why we couldn’t meet or spend time together even when they still did have time to see their other friends but just not me. I found out though my other real friends. I have known few of these people for more than 5 years, but that does not mean anything to them anymore apperently which is really sad. There’s also a specific portion of these people who does not keep in touch with me at all anymore, and I don’t know why. I have tried to reach them by letters, but without any success. Nobody answered to the said letters, but at least you can’t really say that I haven’t tried to get in touch with them.
I kindly ask everyone who reads this, that you think very carefully how you treat your friends and your old-friends too even those who you might not actually want to spend time with. I would have wanted that they would have at least said if they don’t want to hang out with me or anything and I could have respected that rather than just throw me out of their lifes without any words. I know that I wont be getting an aswer as to why ever to this, but I just wanted to get it out there.